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孩子,請你搬走吧!孩子,今天你又裝作若無其事地,暗示媽媽,說市中區的房價,又在飆升,如果再不行動,或許以後你和女友,連一間棲息的小屋都沒有。我淡淡地看你一眼,終於沒有像你希望的那樣,說出「媽媽給你們買」的話來。而你,也在這樣尷尬的沉默裡,即刻氣嘟嘟地放下碗筷,摔門出去。我從窗戶裡看著你遠去的背影,瘦削,懶散,有些玩世和任性,你還是賴在父母懷裡,始終不肯獨立。可是,親愛的孩子,你已經25歲,一份穩定的工作,一個需要呵護的女友,兩個日益老去的父母,難道這些,還不足以讓你成熟,承擔一個成人該擔負的責任?
從很小的時候,你就習慣有事來找媽媽。5歲的時候,你要媽媽幫你整理扔得到處都是的玩具;10歲的時候,看見同學腳上氣派的皮鞋,就哭鬧著讓我也去買來;15歲的時候,你寫情書給班裡的女孩子,說,我媽媽認識很多的人,誰要是欺負你,儘管告訴我;20歲的時候,你讀大學,每次打電話來都是抱怨,說食堂的飯菜如此糟糕,為什麼不給我多寄些營養品?今年25歲的你,在一次與同學閒聊裡,很驕傲地說,我爸媽早已給我備好了買房的錢,我即便是不怎麼奮鬥,也一樣可以過得很好。每一次我都寬容地笑笑,就淡忘掉了。且在將來我們老去,你已壯年的時候,可以得到你的細心照料。可是而今,你日日回家蹭飯,又時常將女友帶回家來久住,讓依然工作的我,還要為你們的一日三餐奔波勞累。這樣的景況,終於讓我連一絲的微笑,都無法擠出。我發現,這樣苦掉自己,全力為你的方式,只是使你心底的自私和懶惰,愈是潛滋暗長,無沿無邊。
我終於承認,25年來對你無節制的寵愛,是一個多麼大的錯誤。有一次開玩笑,我說媽媽或許活不到你娶妻生子呢,你一下子便急,說,那怎麼行,將來誰給我們洗衣做飯,誰給我們照料孩子?當時的我,有一種無法言說的憂傷。原來當我們老掉,依然還要為你繼續操勞,直到生命的終點。我們不是養育了一隻日漸豐滿有力的雄鷹,而是一個寄居的蟲子,它要將滋養了它的鮮嫩的骨頭,一直啃到乾枯腐朽,再無營養。
親愛的孩子,我不得不殘忍地告訴你,你的上半生,與我息息相關,而你以後的道路,我將不再過問。媽媽已經將兼職的工作辭掉,我不能為了你的幸福,而將自己退休後的悠閒時光,交給繼續為你掙錢買房的苦痛中。也請你,從父母的身邊搬走,用自己的薪水租房去住。孩子,媽媽抱歉,不該這樣愛你。而你,也應對那些將父母啃到疲憊的往昔感到愧疚。且讓我們,彼此原諒,彼此放手。
來源: 新《大眾文摘》我習慣了聽你的吩咐,只以為,對你的每一滴好,你自會記得。********************************************************************************
【不要做〝剪蛹的人〞】 呼應上一篇文章
曾經有一種說法:有一個人無意中找到一個蝴蝶蛹。
幾天後,他留意到蛹出現了一個小孔,他就停下來觀察它。
過了幾個小時,他見到裡面的蝴蝶,用它細小的身體掙扎從小孔出來。
看來很久也沒有一些進度,小蝴蝶好像盡了最大努力,也沒有辦法出來。
這個人於是決定幫它一把,找來一雙剪刀將蛹的儘頭剪開。蝴蝶這樣就很容易出來。
但是這蝴蝶的形態有一點特別,它的身體肥腫,翅膀又細又弱。
這人繼續觀察…蝴蝶… 因為他相信翅膀會漸漸變大;而它的身體會越來越小。這沒有發生。
小蝴蝶餘生只是托著肥腫的大身體和細弱的翅膀,在地上爬著走。它永遠也不會飛行。
這個善良的人;不了解蝴蝶必需用它細小的身體掙扎從小孔出來,它必需經過這個過程,蝴蝶才可以將身體裡的體液壓進它的翅膀裡。
大自然…在此…有一個很奇妙的設計,
就是蝴蝶從蛹中…〝掙扎出來〞; 是為著〝預備〞它將來飛行需要的裝備。
生命裡面的〝掙扎〞是我們必需有的。
如果老天允許我們順利地過一生,我們也許就此不會變得堅強。也不會…成長。
所以當你碰到有逼迫或苦難,記得有人正為你禱告,最後你也會明白真理在你身上的計劃。
在教養孩子時,要小心喔,我們很容易就成為那〝剪蛹的人〞!
什 麼是 BF?
(一生解釋,很短,卻很動人)
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富翁得了絕症
有一個富翁得了絕症,他覺得自己將不久人世,心中很難過,還好他去請教一位隱居的名醫。
名醫把脈診斷後,說:"這病除了一個辦法外無葯可醫,我這裡有三帖葯,你依續照做,
〝一帖做完再打開另一帖〞。
富翁回到家,打開第一帖:"請你到一處沙灘,躺下30分鐘,連續21天"富翁半信半疑還是照做了,
結果每次一躺就躺了2個小時,因為雖然他很有錢,卻從來沒有這麼舒服過,聽風聽海和海鷗鳴叫。
第22天他打開第二帖:"請在沙灘上找5隻魚或蝦或貝,將牠們放回海裡,連續21天"。
富翁還是滿心懷疑,還是照做了;結果每次將小魚蝦放回海裡時,
他卻莫名地感動。
第43天他打開第三帖:"請隨便找一根樹枝,在沙灘上寫下所有不滿和怨恨的事"。
每當他寫完沒多久,海浪漲潮時就把那些字沖掉了,他哭了。
回家後他覺得全身舒暢,很放鬆,甚至不怕死了。
原來人因為學不會三件事,所以不快樂:一. 休息;二. 付出;三. 放下
本周名言:"相較於忍,比較喜歡恕,因為忍字心上一把刀,恕字卻是如意在心頭"
(子貢問曰,有一言而可以終身行之者乎。子曰,其恕乎。----->推己及人謂之恕)
美國第一夫人演講讓中國人目瞪口呆!令人動容的奧巴馬夫人演講
--有中文翻譯
如果下次的台灣總統選舉也要求競選人賢內助也必須要參與發表對國家社會的看法和想法。
我相信這樣也許可以看出這個國家的領導人的家庭能對這社會帶來怎麼樣的啟發和責任 !
令人動容的奧巴馬夫人演講
美國總統夫人米歇爾·奧巴馬Michelle Obama,2012年9月4日在美國民主黨全國大會DNC上的演說,這是其中的高潮部分。
這篇演講堪比當年馬丁.路德.金的演講《I have a dream》
什麼時候可以聽到我們的領導人有如此令人動容的演講,而且能讓我們聽到、看到,我們淚流滿面的無限期待。 。 。 。 。 。
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When it comes to giving our kids the education they deserve, Barack knows that like me and like so many of you, he never could've attended college without financial aid.
And believe it or not, when we were first married, our combined monthly student loan bills were actually higher than our mortgage.
We were so young, so in love, and so in debt.
That's why Barack has fought so hard to increase student aid and keep interest rates down, because he wants every young person to fulfill their promise and be able to attend college without a mountain of debt.
So in the end, for Barack, these issues aren't political – they're personal.
Because Barack knows what it means when a family struggles.
He knows what it means to want something more for your kids and grandkids.
Barack knows the American Dream because he's lived it...and he wants everyone in this country to have that same opportunity, no matter who we are, or where we're from, or what we look like, or who we love.
And he believes that when you've worked hard, and done well, and walked through that doorway of opportunity...you do not slam it shut behind you...you reach back, and you give other folks the same chances that helped you succeed.
So when people ask me whether being in the White House has changed my husband, I can honestly say that when it comes to his character, and his convictions, and his heart, Barack Obama is still the same man I fell in love with all those years ago.
He's the same man who started his career by turning down high paying jobs and instead working in struggling neighborhoods where a steel plant had shut down, fighting to rebuild those communities and get folks back to work...because for Barack, success isn't about how much money you make, it's about the difference you make in people's lives.
He's the same man who, when our girls were first born, would anxiously check their cribs every few minutes to ensure they were still breathing, proudly showing them off to everyone we knew.
That's the man who sits down with me and our girls for dinner nearly every night, patiently answering their questions about issues in the news, and strategizing about middle school friendships.
That's the man I see in those quiet moments late at night, hunched over his desk, poring over the letters people have sent him.
The letter from the father struggling to pay his bills...from the woman dying of cancer whose insurance company won't cover her care...from the young person with so much promise but so few opportunities.
I see the concern in his eyes...and I hear the determination in his voice as he tells me, "You won't believe what these folks are going through, Michelle...it's not right. We've got to keep working to fix this. We've got so much more to do."
I see how those stories – our collection of struggles and hopes and dreams – I see how that's what drives Barack Obama every single day.
And I didn't think it was possible, but today, I love my husband even more than I did four years ago...even more than I did 23 years ago, when we first met.
I love that he's never forgotten how he started.
I love that we can trust Barack to do what he says he's going to do, even when it's hard – especially when it's hard.
I love that for Barack, there is no such thing as "us" and "them" – he doesn't care whether you're a Democrat, a Republican, or none of the above...he knows that we all love our country...and he's always ready to listen to good ideas...he's always looking for the very best in everyone he meets.
And I love that even in the toughest moments, when we're all sweating it – when we're worried that the bill won't pass, and it seems like all is lost – Barack never lets himself get distracted by the chatter and the noise.
Just like his grandmother, he just keeps getting up and moving forward...with patience and wisdom, and courage and grace.
And he reminds me that we are playing a long game here...and that change is hard, and change is slow, and it never happens all at once.
But eventually we get there, we always do.
We get there because of folks like my Dad...folks like Barack's grandmother...men and women who said to themselves, "I may not have a chance to fulfill my dreams, but maybe my children will...maybe my grandchildren will."
So many of us stand here tonight because of their sacrifice, and longing, and steadfast love...because time and again, they swallowed their fears and doubts and did what was hard.
So today, when the challenges we face start to seem overwhelming – or even impossible – let us never forget that doing the impossible is the history of this nation...it's who we are as Americans...it's how this country was built.
And if our parents and grandparents could toil and struggle for us...if they could raise beams of steel to the sky, send a man to the moon, and connect the world with the touch of a button...then surely we can keep on sacrificing and building for our own kids and grandkids.
And if so many brave men and women could wear our country's uniform and sacrifice their lives for our most fundamental rights...then surely we can do our part as citizens of this great democracy to exercise those rights...surely, we can get to the polls and make our voices heard on Election Day.
If farmers and blacksmiths could win independence from an empire...if immigrants could leave behind everything they knew for a better life on our shores...if women could be dragged to jail for seeking the vote...if a generation could defeat a depression, and define greatness for all time...if a young preacher could lift us to the mountaintop with his righteous dream...and if proud Americans can be who they are and boldly stand at the altar with who they love...then surely, surely we can give everyone in this country a fair chance at that great American Dream.
Because in the end, more than anything else, that is the story of this country – the story of unwavering hope grounded in unyielding struggle.
That is what has made my story, and Barack's story, and so many other American stories possible.
And I say all of this tonight not just as First Lady...and not just as a wife.
You see, at the end of the day, my most important title is still "mom-in-chief."
My daughters are still the heart of my heart and the center of my world.
But today, I have none of those worries from four years ago about whether Barack and I were doing what's best for our girls.
Because today, I know from experience that if I truly want to leave a better world for my daughters, and all our sons and daughters...if we want to give all our children a foundation for their dreams and opportunities worthy of their promise...if we want to give them that sense of limitless possibility – that belief that here in America, there is always something better out there if you're willing to work for it...then we must work like never before...and we must once again come together and stand together for the man we can trust to keep moving this great country forward...my husband, our President, President Barack Obama.
Thank you, God bless you, and God bless America.
狼的50種格言,受用終生!
1 :沒有捕捉不到的獵物,就看你有沒有野心去捕;沒有完成不了的事情,就看你有沒有野心去做。
2:沒有獵物我們就去尋找獵物,發現獵物我們就去追逐獵物。尋找、發現、追求、獲得———這就是狼的生活要素。
3:儘管面對上萬隻的黃羊,面對兇猛的老虎,我們都毫不退縮。但是面對人類的槍口,適當的轉移是明智的。我們不缺乏成功的信念,但是我們絕不是癡心妄想只會送死的傻瓜。
4:追逐獵物僅僅靠猛跑是不夠的,尤其在對付大群獵物的時候,必要的準備和步驟是獲得成功的基礎。而謀劃是實現這一切的唯一保障。
5:我們絕對不會花費任何多餘的時間和體力在無意義的事情上,因為我們的眼睛永遠只盯著獵物。
6:自然是神聖偉大的,生活在這萬能自然之神的庇護下本身就需要很強的能力,如果不能改變自然。就只有適應自然。
7:如果註定要承受痛苦,那麼就把痛苦當作是一種磨練,既然一切不可避免,就讓暴風雨來得更猛烈一些吧!
8:要想能做大事,就必須要能屈能伸,只要能達到最終目的。過程可以有很多選擇。
9:燃燒人生並不是一味地透支,即使是再強壯的身體也有疲勞的時候,勞逸結合是一種生存的策略。身體是生存的本錢,休息是狂奔的前奏。
10:家鄉固然值得眷戀,但是危險降臨,生存受到威脅的時候,我們會選擇離開。離開家鄉不是逃避,是為了尋找更美好的明天。
11:在草原上,即使我們什麼都沒有了。至少我,還有勇氣。這是我們最大的財富,有了勇氣就可以得到一切。
12:在狼的眼睛裡,永遠看不到失敗的氣餒,因為它們知道,不管經歷過多少次失敗,最後的成功一定是屬於它們的。所以狼永遠是草原上的王者。
13:有時候,靠單純的判斷並不能確定成功的幾率,與其在等待中浪費青春,不如在追求中燃燒生命。
14:沒有固定的規則就是永恆的規則,自然界變化無常,人世間瞬息萬端,只有不拘泥於過去,才能活得更好。
15:只看看獵物永遠不會填飽肚子,天上只會下冷雨,掉餡餅這種事情永遠不會出現,只想獲得獵物,唯一的方法就是靠自己的努力。
16:成功就是不懈的努力加上一點點機會,努力是加法,機會是乘法,兩者兼備才會得到最大的結果。
17:毫不費力就到嘴的食物,不是毒藥,就是誘餌。
18:傷痛不會讓我消沉,只能激發我更強的鬥志!
19:靜如處子,動如脫兔,不鳴則已,一鳴驚人。
20:要想獲得食物,就必須一直尋找,只有這樣,才有機會。不要氣餒,就算找不到肥羊,至少能找到一隻兔子。
21:鬥勇更鬥智,請用腦子來遊戲。兩點間的曲線有時候比直線更短!
22:如果"不戰而全勝"是你的戰略目標,那麼"避實擊虛"就是達到這個目標的關鍵。通過集中你的資源來攻擊對手的致命弱處,你就會獲得成功。
23:無自由,毋寧死!
24:被抓不可怕,挨餓不可怕,最可怕的是沒有了骨氣,成了一條搖尾乞憐的狗。
25:生命如果跟時代崇高的責任聯繫在一起,你就會感到它永垂不朽。
26:上天給了我們強壯的肉體,給了我們堅強的靈魂,給了我們生存的環境,給了我們空氣、水、事物,給了我們一切,對此,在一生當中我們都懷著最深厚的敬意。
27:不為明天做準備的人永遠不會有未來,今天就準備好明天的事情就永遠不會餓死。
28:要想順利地生存下去,不僅要有無懼危險的勇氣,更要有發現危險的能力,如果你嗅不到明天的危險,那麼明天也許就是你的死期。
29:王者與強者的區別就在於,強者只擁有強大的力量,而王者則兼具力量與智慧,凡事都準備充分,強大的力量不如萬全的準備。
30:一根最細小的魚刺也可以紮破喉嚨。一隻麻雀大小的肉也可能挽救一條危弱的生命。生存無小事,珍惜每一口食物,把它當作救命的一口。
31:同一個陷阱永遠不可能抓住兩隻狼,犯一次錯誤可以原諒,但是連續犯兩次錯誤就只能是不可救藥的愚蠢。
32:夜鶯聲音好聽換不來飯吃,與其有時間嚎叫,不如去磨爪子,嚎叫如果能得到食物,那麼驢一定比狼還厲害。
33:威嚴,絕對的威嚴,是管好這個團隊的必須手段。一個沒有威嚴、沒有統治手腕的頭狼,很快就會被別的狼取代。
34:個體是群體的一部分,只有尊重個體,才能保障群體的利益。學會體貼下屬,那麼在必要的時候,他們就會為你、為整個群體效死。
35:狼王是狼群的領袖,更是群體交流的紐帶,一個和群體之間沒有任何隔閡的狼王是永遠不會失敗的。
36:公平不是單一的平均分配,也不是殘忍的弱肉強食。既能讓強壯者分到最多的食物,又不能讓弱小者忍饑挨餓,這就是公平。
37:一隻狼可以捕獲一隻羊,一百隻狼卻可以屠殺一萬隻羊。雙拳難敵四手,惡虎敵不過群狼。
38:追求讓人充實,分享讓人快樂。
39:沒有失去就沒有獲得,所以,在需要我們付出的時候,我們從不猶豫。
40:一時的忍耐是為了更廣闊的自由,一時的紀律約束是為了更大的成功。
41:一個狼群就是一支訓練有素,紀律嚴明的部隊,統一行動,絕對服從,協同作戰,這就是狼的紀律。
42:短暫的爭吵是為了再次握手,一時的爭鬥是為了永遠的和平。分歧是一種個性存在的必然,但是絕對不是消極的藉口。
43:最強壯的狼也有它脆弱的地方,要想做到最好,僅僅靠自己是不行的。只有不斷地取長補短,才會不斷地進步。
44:我的對手只有自己,要想爬得更高,只應該自己往上走,而不應該把別人往下壓。
45:我們殘忍,但是我們從不苛求;我們貪婪,但是我們從不忘寬容!
46:對於沒有到手的獵物,我們首先要考慮的是如何把它抓住,至於口味如何,能不能吃,那是抓住以後的事情。只要有利的,絕不放過;只要無用的,堅決捨棄。
47:沒有利益的戰鬥我絕不參與,沒有任何好處的朋友我絕不結交,只要對生存有利,哪怕是敵人,也可以成為暫時的朋友。
48:生存戰鬥是知識的源泉。
49:一百次心動不如一次行動。
50:狼捕獵的高效率來源於命令下達後的立即執行,這個世界上沒有一隻總是找藉口的狼,否則它們早就餓死了。